the Mental Game of Self-Coaching: For Anyone Who Presents.
Do you usually perform well and
learn from your speaking experiences? Or are you your own worst
enemy on and off the platform? Do you use one of the most powerful
tools in the peak-performing speakerís armamentarium, self-coaching?
This article reveals 5 secrets pro speakers use to improve and 3
crucial steps to putting these strategies into immediate action.
Playing the Mental Game of Self-Coaching
For Anyone Who Presents
Bill Cole, MS, MA
Founder and CEO
William B. Cole Consultants
Silicon Valley, California
Top performing professional speakers regularly
look for help from coaches, gurus, peers, books and other sources.
But all the information in the universe won't help if it's not translated
into useable form. This is where self-coaching takes center stage.
Self-coaching is the ability to combine knowledge about yourself
with outside information to make meaningful, positive changes in
your life and to perform well when you need it most.
No one can teach you anything. Ultimately, only you can take information
from a teacher or coach and transform it into your personal power.
Savvy speakers take responsibility for their own learning and devise
strategies and systems that put information into action.
Here are five mental game success secrets that peak performing speakers
can use to improve their self-coaching skills.
- Be Willing To Grow. If you are reading this article
about self-coaching it means you want to grow as a human being.
This desire is manifested by your seeking experiences that help
you improve personally, as well as professionally. The self-coaching
speaker realizes that to grow professionally, personal growth
is a must.
- Cultivate A Beginner's Mind. The Zen tradition says,
that to learn, we must be an empty vessel. If we know it all,
we can't be very open to new knowledge and experiences. The self-coaching
speaker realize that an open, seeking attitude allows new experiences
to come into our consciousness.
- Benefit From Mistakes. Peak performers respect mistakes
and use them to learn. Poor performers tie themselves up with
negative emotion after every mistake. When we view any mistake
as failure, our self-destructive emotions mask the valuable feedback
around every mistake. The self-coaching speaker welcomes all feedback.
- Develop High Self-Awareness. Self-awareness is not about
what should be-it is about what is. The self-coaching speaker
places a high priority on becoming self-aware and realizes that
self-knowledge can be about the past or present. Self-awareness
is the master skill.
- Deconstruct Your Personal Experience. Peak performers
use self-reflection to deconstruct their experiences. They know
that the unexamined life fleets by out of control. Only by reviewing
personal experience do we gain some degree of awareness over what
we have done and over who we are. The self-coaching speaker embraces
this process so new realities and realizations can be consciously
created out of that.
- Develop A Mental Game Plan. Take these three questions
as a start in developing your self-coaching action plan this week.
a. What systems can you develop to increase self awareness about
yourself? Can you write in a journal? Speak your thoughts into
a tape recorder?
b. Who can you partner with to assist you in your self-coaching
c. How will you translate what you learn about yourself into immediately
To learn more about how presentation coaching can help you become
a better, more confident speaker, visit Bill Cole, MS, MA, the Mental
Game Coach at www.mentalgamecoach.com/Services/PresentationCoaching.html.
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Bill Cole, MS, MA. All rights reserved.
Bill Cole, MS, MA, a leading authority
on peak performance, mental toughness and coaching, is founder and
CEO of William B. Cole Consultants, a consulting firm that helps
organizations and professionals achieve more success in business,
life and sports. He is also the Founder and President of the International
Mental Game Coaching Association (www.mentalgamecoaching.com),
an organization dedicated to advancing the research, development,
professionalism and growth of mental game coaching worldwide. He
is a multiple Hall-Of-Fame honoree as an athlete, coach and school
alumnus, an award-winning scholar-athlete, published book author
and articles author, and has coached at the highest levels of major-league
pro sports, big-time college athletics and corporate America. For
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